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Did you know that 43% of the women today have experienced an abortion? Who are they? They are your sister, relative, schoolmate, co-worker or neighbor, from every kind of group, every race, status or religion. What amazes me is that there are not more healing ministries or support groups for women and men who are hurting after abortion. We hope to help fill the gap.
These feelings are often referred to as "Post-Abortion Stress" or PAS.
PAS results when a woman or man represses the emotions that they have after an abortion. Many women isolate and carry their secret for 10, 20 or 30 years. If you had a miscarriage, you may wonder what role you played in your baby's death. If you chose abortion, you know what role you played in their death. The grieving that follows abortion includes the normal stages of grief.
Relief that the decision was made and that you were no longer pregnant is usually the first stage. But then the feelings of relief give way to memories of the actual facts of the abortion and denial begins. "It wasn't really a baby; I just terminated a pregnancy." Moving out of denial may take years depending on the person. Denial may end when you see pictures of fetal development or become pregnant again. You know that it was not just products of conception, but your child.
Then comes the anger and blame. You may be angry at the clinic, the father, your friends or family for what they told you. You may blame others for not being there for you or pressuring you. If you did not deal with this anger, you may have become bitter, resentful and unforgiving of those who have not understood how they have hurt you. You cannot change the past, but you can choose to forgive and release those who hurt you. You can change how you respond to the past.
If you did not forgive yourself and others, you may have been overcome by depression, guilt, self-pity or shame. If you have been condemning or punishing yourself, you may have gotten into self-punishing behaviors such as destructive alcohol and drug use, over eating, unhealthy relationships, self-deprecation or self-sabotage. You may be trying to suppress the feelings, the memories and the thoughts about your abortion.
With Restoration Prayer Ministry, we can help you move into the stage of acceptance, healing and wholeness. Yes, with the right support, you can release those who have hurt you, forgive yourself and even accept God's forgiveness. When you face the emotions, walls and blocks left in your life by abortion, you can invite healing truth into those areas. You will be amazed as God makes your weakest places strong and you eventually begin to encourage others to find health and freedom. He will redeem every experience, taking the pain out of the memories and fill you with a new vision for His plan for your life.
If you are suffering emotionally from a past abortion, we can help you get the healing and support that you need. Restoration Prayer Ministry is a safe, confidential, non-judgmental way for you to share your feelings, to be healed with prayer and to begin new personal growth.
If you take this test in light of your abortion, you will be able to determine areas that still need healing. You may even be interested in joining a healing group for women who have had similar experiences. Also see Healing Your Sexuality.
How do you know if you still need more healing?
If you have done all you know to do and have not gotten the healing and restoration that you need, you might benefit from sharing in a confidential healing group or from Restoration Prayer Ministry. For more information contact us.
Learn how Restoration Prayer Ministry will give new meaning to your experiences and prepare you to fulfill your destiny in confidence and wholeness. To find out more about Restoration Prayer Ministry or healing groups, call Carlotta Waldmann at 1-866-480-LIVE 9am-7pm ET.
Thanks to "Pass" for their research and to Linda Cochrane, who wrote much of our material and our group study book, "Forgiven and Set Free."