Are You Blessing or Cursing Others?
When you say "word curses" over your
friends, family and others,
you are making it harder
for them to repent of the very things you
hate about them! You are assisting the devil
to imprison them in the very patterns you
pray against. Your words have power to speak
freedom or they can be prison bars helping
satan to keep others in bondage.
Blessings be on you and
A testimony sent
by a sister in Christ
after reading "The Blessing" written by Gary Smalley
and John Trent
I have finally begun to
learn something in my marriage. I have
six men in my household including my husband and his
father. They were not taught to bless and not curse.
I just discovered that I was not blessing but
cursing when I criticized. I was not given blessings
either in my household growing up. I remember how
Pastor Gary Oates was always "blessing our socks
off" and was annoyed by it at times, but Gary
Smalley and John Trent wrote a book called The
Blessing. If you can get this one thing down in your
marriage, it is to bless and not curse with your
mouth or your thinking, you will have a wonderful
I have had opportunities to
bless my boss, as she was mean and bossy,
but with good reason. She has had many overwhelming
changes in her life including the death of her son.
I started to bless
coworkers who were not doing their jobs
instead of complaining about them to my boss, (which
is what she requires). They "mysteriously" started
to do their jobs.
I had not been
getting anything from my boss. She would ignore my needs
at the house and ignore me period because of her own
issues. I started to pray for her and bless her and it
has turned around. Now, I let her know I am praying for
her and she receives it.
I started walking with a
person who has lost so much in her life time.
I started blessing her with good thoughts of
hope for her future, encouragements for what she is
already doing, lifting her up in every moment I was able. I bought
her some roses and made her feel special after she had been beaten
in a recent marriage.
I walk with her Monday through
Friday and although it is trying to hear the same thoughts of
hopelessness, I usually edge something in there like she will live
and not die, she will get a job, she will eat right, she will get
some sleep, she will have some balance. For about a year, I gave her
some of my lunch. She knows I care. I invited her to come out to my
house. She wanted some exercise by doing some yard work.
time I want to complain about something, I start to bless
that person or thing or increase the person in some way. Every time,
I begin to get negative, I see a new light on that subject. There
are so many discouraged, lonely, and sad people in our day. I pray
that we can all be like Joshua and Caleb, taking the land with new
principle of sowing and reaping is so wonderful. Now that
I know the secret of blessing and not cursing, I pray that I will
always take the opportunity to bless and not curse.
And you know what? I am starting to hear the
blessing as I speak it over others and so I am blessed.
Declare scripture over
yourself and expect God to change YOU:
Whenever we judge others in condemnation, we will reap those things
Luke 6:37 Judge not, and ye shall not be judged: condemn
not, and ye shall not be condemned: forgive, and ye shall be
God says there is NO
excuse when we judge others; we are sinners ourselves.
Rom 2:1 Therefore you are inexcusable, O man, whoever you are who
judge, for in whatever you judge another you condemn yourself; for
you who judge practice the same things. NKJV
Whatever we do not honor
in our parents, we will reap in ourselves or others.
Ex 20:12 Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days
may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.
resentment and bitterness in our lives defile others.
Heb 12:15 Looking diligently lest any man fail of the
grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you,
and thereby many be defiled;
We must learn to discern
with spiritual discernment based on God's truth.
Heb 5:14 But strong meat belongeth to them that are of
full age, even those who by reason of use have their senses
exercised to discern both good and evil.
Critical attitudes cause
us to be blind to our sins and we reap criticism.
Luke 6:41 And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy
brother's eye, but perceivest not the beam that is in thine own eye?
If we have bad fruit on
our "tree" it is because of bad roots on our tree.
Luke 6:43 For a good tree bringeth not forth corrupt
fruit; neither doth a corrupt tree bring forth good fruit.
Whatever we sow, we will
reap, reap more than we sowed and later.
Gal 6:7 Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for
whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.
When we learn to let
Jesus bless others through us, we fulfill our calling to bless and
inherit a blessing also.
1 Peter 3:8-10 To sum up, let all be harmonious,
sympathetic, brotherly, kindhearted, and humble in spirit; not
returning evil for evil, or insult for insult, but giving a blessing
instead; for you were called for the very purpose that you might
inherit a blessing.
When we bless others who persecute us, we
speak the power of the Holy Spirit into their life to make them
Rom 12:14 Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not
When God allows us to see the weakness of
others, He is trusting us to intercede (vs. criticize), to bear
their burden, to speak revelation, reconciliation or restoration.
Matt 5:44-45 But I say to you, love your enemies, bless
those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for
those who spitefully use you and persecute you, ...