Says I am the non-person of the
family, calls me names, says my opinions and
preferences are not important.
self-hatred - Uses my voice to tell me
that I hate myself, then my body/soul/spirit
connection reacts with infirmities, auto-immune
illnesses and diseases of unknown causes.
competition - Says I must always win and
manipulate for self-promotion. I cannot defer to
others easily, as in Matthew 5,6,7.
self-pride - Causes me to lust for a
position, a relationship or material things to
complete myself or to maximize my potential..
selfishness - Makes me hypersensitive to
whether I am getting my share (i.e. of the
love,) when I want it and how I want it.
exalted "I" and "I will" - The Devil
suggests that I can do it independently, by
myself, in my own strength, with my own talents,
gifts and resources (like Lucifer did in Ezekiel
rebellion - I reject God's choices for
me: i.e. my IQ, appearance, body, parents, race,
attention getting - I demand attention
from people before they even have a chance to
offer their love or at least before they can
reject me. I am easy prey for counterfeit love.
excessive talkativeness - Drives me to
dominate conversations with my opinions, needs,
feelings, knowledge or just chit chat.
insecurity - Sets me up to be easily
offended, to over react, to feel devalued and to
take things personally.
fabricated self - We prematurely create a
niche for ourselves and tend to project
ourselves as more qualified than we are.
unworthiness - We fear that we are
unworthy of blessing (based on our performance.)
self-deprecation - We torture ourselves
by calling ourselves names, cutting ourselves
down (as humor,) minimize our strengths and
maximize our faults.
self-comparison - Causes me to measure
myself negatively in contrast to the progress,
blessings, gifts, talents and accomplishments of
self-assertion - I am not just asking for
what I need; I demand with pressure, control or
self-deception - I rationalize that
sinful reactions, beliefs and behaviors are OK;
I defend them when other try to tell me the
self-questioning - I constantly doubt
truth about myself, my perceptions, my
abilities and tend to believe that I will choose
self-indulgence - I am addicted to
ineffective coping mechanisms like overspending,
binge eating, kleptomania, drug abuse or therapy
that "never seems to take effect!"
self-idolatry - I obsess about my agenda,
my needs, my successes and my glory instead of
God's purposes and plans.
perfection - Says that I can only feel
good about myself if my performance meets the
standards of others, my unreasonably high
standards or is perfect (and of course it is
self-accusation - Refuses to acknowledge
the progress or growth in my life; identifies me
with my past failures and projects my past onto
self-condemnation - "I am" a failure,
inadequate, inferior, unattractive, to blame and
unlovable. I believe that I am shameful because
I am basically defective.
self-bitterness - I keep a record of my
failures, withholding forgiveness from myself,
and resenting myself for being imperfect.
unforgiveness toward yourself - False
humility tells me that it is more holy not to
forgive myself and that I should punish myself.
need for approval - I try to earn
"unconditional love and acceptance" (oxymoron)
by meeting the supposed expectations of others.
not necessary, not needed - I agree with
devaluating condescending lies and conclude that
I not valuable and that my contributions are not
self-doubt and unbelief - I disqualify
myself, settle for less, believe I am the most
unlikely to be chosen and cannot believe that
God could love me.
self-denial - I tend to exclude myself,
isolate myself and to suffer vs. asking for what
self-absorption - I obsess on analyzing
myself, my interests, my needs, figuring out my
own way or ruminating about my issues.
self-abuse - I blame myself, drive myself
with drugs or unrealistic demands, deny basic
needs, volunteer for martyrdom, victimize
myself, am addicted to self-destructive
self-pity - I accept the identity of a
victim, stuck in past, who is not healed and I
insist that I should be pitied rather than
believe that I can release my pain to Jesus to
self-sabotage - I "shoot myself in the
foot" because I am afraid to receive promotion,
compliments or great opportunities. I disqualify
myself when I am afraid of succeeding; I push
love away for fear of inevitable rejection.
self-annihilation or elimination - I
have a plan to kill myself, make suicidal
gestures or actually attempt suicide.