Are You Blessing or Cursing Others?
When you say "word curses" over your friends, family and others, you are making it harder for them to repent of the very things you hate about them!  You are assisting the devil to imprison them in the very patterns you pray against.  Your words have power to speak freedom or they can be prison bars helping satan to keep others in bondage.

Blessings be on you and your household!

A testimony sent by a sister in Christ
 after reading "The Blessing"  written by Gary Smalley and John Trent

I have finally begun to learn something in my marriage.  I have six men in my household including my husband and his father.  They were not taught to bless and not curse.  I just discovered that I was not blessing but cursing when I criticized.  I was not given blessings either in my household growing up. I remember how Pastor Gary Oates was always "blessing our socks off" and was annoyed by it at times, but Gary Smalley and John Trent wrote a book called The Blessing. If you can get this one thing down in your marriage, it is to bless and not curse with your mouth or your thinking, you will have a wonderful marriage. 

I have had opportunities to bless my boss, as she was mean and bossy, but with good reason. She has had many overwhelming changes in her life including the death of her son. 

I started to bless coworkers who were not doing their jobs instead of complaining about them to my boss, (which is what she requires).  They "mysteriously" started to do their jobs. 

I had not been getting anything from my boss. She would ignore my needs at the house and ignore me period because of her own issues. I started to pray for her and bless her and it has turned around. Now, I let her know I am praying for her and she receives it. 

I started walking with a person who has lost so much in her life time.  
I started blessing her with good thoughts of hope for her future, encouragements for what she is already doing, lifting her up in every moment I was able. I bought her some roses and made her feel special after she had been beaten in a recent marriage.

I walk with her Monday through Friday and although it is trying to hear the same thoughts of hopelessness, I usually edge something in there like she will live and not die, she will get a job, she will eat right, she will get some sleep, she will have some balance. For about a year, I gave her some of my lunch.  She knows I care.  I invited her to come out to my house. She wanted some exercise by doing some yard work. 

Every time I want to complain about something, I start to bless that person or thing or increase the person in some way. Every time, I begin to get negative, I see a new light on that subject. There are so many discouraged, lonely, and sad people in our day. I pray that we can all be like Joshua and Caleb, taking the land with new vision. 

The principle of sowing and reaping is so wonderful. Now that I know the secret of blessing and not cursing, I pray that I will always take the opportunity to bless and not curse. And you know what? I am starting to hear the blessing as I speak it over others and so I am blessed.  

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Declare scripture over yourself and expect God to change YOU:

Whenever we judge others in condemnation, we will reap those things ourselves.
Luke 6:37  Judge not, and ye shall not be judged: condemn not, and ye shall not be condemned: forgive, and ye shall be forgiven:  

God says there is NO excuse when we judge others; we are sinners ourselves.
Rom 2:1  Therefore you are inexcusable, O man, whoever you are who judge, for in whatever you judge another you condemn yourself; for you who judge practice the same things.  NKJV

Whatever we do not honor in our parents, we will reap in ourselves or others. 
Ex 20:12  Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.  

Unforgiveness, resentment and bitterness in our lives defile others.
Heb 12:15  Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled;  

We must learn to discern with spiritual discernment based on God's truth.
Heb 5:14  But strong meat belongeth to them that are of full age, even those who by reason of use have their senses exercised to discern both good and evil.  

Critical attitudes cause us to be blind to our sins and we reap criticism. 
Luke 6:41  And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but perceivest not the beam that is in thine own eye?  

If we have bad fruit on our "tree" it is because of bad roots on our tree. 
Luke 6:43  For a good tree bringeth not forth corrupt fruit; neither doth a corrupt tree bring forth good fruit.  

Whatever we sow, we will reap, reap more than we sowed and later. 
Gal 6:7  Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. 

When we learn to let Jesus bless others through us, we fulfill our calling to bless and inherit a blessing also. 
1 Peter 3:8-10  To sum up, let all be harmonious, sympathetic, brotherly, kindhearted, and humble in spirit; not returning evil for evil, or insult for insult, but giving a blessing instead; for you were called for the very purpose that you might inherit a blessing.

When we bless others who persecute us, we speak the power of the Holy Spirit into their life to make them free.
Rom 12:14   Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse.

When God allows us to see the weakness of others, He is trusting us to intercede (vs. criticize), to bear their burden, to speak revelation, reconciliation or restoration.
Matt 5:44-45  But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you, ...