ANGER LADDER

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Anger without sin includes stating your motivation to resolve conflict and to continue your relationship in peace if possible.
It attempts to understand or at least clarify each position.
 

+1

Anger without sin expresses honest feelings, is respectful to others, is humble in tone and takes responsibility for it's own choices.
 

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Anger without sin may not be willing to discuss at this time and may only enforce your boundaries or reschedule.
 

-1

Anger with sin uses negative, mean, proud, rejecting looks,  condescending, judgmental, sarcastic or ungodly comments
 

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Anger with sin has a loud irritated tone which says, “I’m not on your side.” “Don’t feel, don’t talk, don’t ask”
 

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Anger with sin uses negative rejecting body language or
walking out without a plan to resume talking
 

-4

Anger with sin uses overpowering, threats, separating comments, general condemnations
 

-5

Adds interrupting or monopolizing conversations;
rebutting without listening to what the other has to say
 

-6

Adds calling them names, labeling, stereotyping,
bringing up their history and their relatives
 

-7

Adds yelling, attacking, cussing, cursing them,
any type of verbal abuse or mental cruelty
 

-8

Adds public put downs, uncovering them, humiliation,
gossip, accusation and slander
 

-9

Adds physical abuse, threats of abuse,
threatening or abusing their property, abandonment
 

-10

Adds passive aggression, any resistant action with intent
to punish or to make sorry without owning the intent
 

-11

[I added: Suicidal ideas, talk, threats or any
insinuation that their suicide would be your fault]
 

-12

Adds homicidal attempts, homicidal threats
and homicide